REVIVE YOUR MARRIAGE...

Want to revive those sexy, curious, early days when you guys just become an item? 

Here are some sure ways to improve your relationship

Most of us love our spouses because of the very first thing they did. Maybe the first contact, first visit or even the first hard to get attitude and that left a lasting impression in our memories. But the wear and tear of marriage may have stolen from this feeling. Maybe we are now too stressed, stressed too busy or too tired to pay attention to little details and then the love begins to die. Hmmmm. What can we do to bring back the good old feelings and live happily ever after? Don't worry, i got some tips for you.

1. Kiss more often

Yep! You read it right! Kissing. I'm not talking about the lip brush o. – I'm talking about those deep, slow, mouth-open kisses that you watch on telly and shout YUCK!!! EEEEWWW!. That Flavour / Chidimma type of kiss. Yeah thats the one im talking about. But wait o. Before before you both used to look forward to it, greet each other with it, brag to your friends about it. So how did it now get so completely disgusting? “Kissing becomes a forgotten act for many couples in long-term relationships, unless it’s during foreplay. But kissing is probably the simplest, sexiest act there is.” In fact, couples who kiss regularly tend to have sex more frequently.” And sex doesn’t need to be the only incentive; sometimes relationships just need a little mouth-to-mouth resuscitation...wink...

2. Naughty texting

Send a naughty text to let him/her know they are on your mind 247. That’s right, it’s good for couples in healthy relationships looking to have a little fun. “it’s important to remember that sexting is a great way for committed couples to flirt with each other and make each other smile.” Anticipation is like mental foreplay that could lead to the physical kind, too. You could even be at home while you text naughty things to each other for your eyes only. 

3. Straight from the heart.

Does your discussion in marriage sometimes feel like a business meeting or master servant relationship rather than a love affair? It’s not that surprising when you think about it. You’re most likely shareholders in your bank accounts and other home matters but none of those serious stuff came into play when you first fell in love, so try to re-visit that tender pillow-talk stage whenever possible. “It’s essential to have a real straight from the heart conversation at least 4 nights in a week,” You’ve got to expand your communication beyond “the day-to-day, ‘How far with the rent?', School fees nko? Please talk about yourselves. Your feelings. Very important.

4. Say Thank You

We all know the importance of saying “I love you.” But, believe it or not, those may not be the magic words your darling is really longing to hear. “The number one way to improve your relationship is to make your partner feel consistently and constantly appreciated. One SURE way to do this is to say ‘THANK YOU’ for the little things.” Did he take out the trash? Make dinner? Wash the dishes? Let him know you appreciate. There may be an added bonus in showing your appreciation.

5. Make eye contact during sex 

A lot of people are guilty of closing their eyes during sex...... Yes, i know lol. When you’re having sex, whats on your mind? Ive heard some people say they fantasize. Truely there's nothing wrong with fantasy when he’s in on it (and occasionally when he isn’t). but closing your eyes can sometimes send the wrong signal. He may think you’re only present physically. Keeping your eyes open and looking directly into his/her eyes reassures him that it’s him, and only him, who is running the show. “Eye contact during sex reinforces the love-making aspect of sex. “It also enhances the emotional intensity and sense of intimacy.”

6. Reminisce 

What’s worse than living in the past? Ignoring it altogether and never taking a moment to reflect on the happy and sad times you’ve shared along the way is a big NO. “Reminiscing together strengthens your bond and your sense of history together,” After all, the fact that you’ve been together through good and bad for as long as you have can say a lot about how much you mean to each other and how well you know each other. Think about the first day he tried to impress you and bashed his fsthers car. Think about the first half done and salty jellof rice she served you as dinner and you ate it because of love lol... All those hearty sacrifices?

7. Ask him for advice 

Boost his ego while showing him how much you respect him, all at the same time? It’s easy: Ask him to guide you through solving a problem you’re having in your business, at work or with a friend or family member. “People need to feel needed, Asking for help is a great way to show your partner that you depend on him in a healthy way.” Requesting his assistance and support is sure to make him feel important, especially if you follow his advice and let him know it led to a favorable outcome.

8. Take a new risk in the bedroom 

Couples generally lock into a few things that they know work and then they just stop experimenting, but the brain is the biggest sex organ and anytime you try something new, you’re stimulating the brain’s natural desire for novelty.” Got any new ideas? Please share it lol

9. Compliment each other regularly

You think he’s hot, you think shes smart, funny and sexy. Why else would you be with him/her for so long, right? Not necessarily. Even if he’s the most confident man on the planet, he’d probably still love to hear about how you feel about him more often – and compliments are a great place to start. “Giving compliments provides a necessary reminder that you find your partner physically and emotionally attractive and practicing this will make your partner feel warmer and more relaxed towards you.” So the next time he tells you about a success at work, let him know you’re not surprised he’s so well-respected. The next time he wows you with his knowledge of PDP and APC, tell him you’re impressed with his social studies . And the next time his butt looks extra-cute in those jeans? Let him know lol!

10. Touch each other 

Flirting and holding hands isn’t just for twosomes in new relationships; it can keep your bond sealed for the long haul. “Non-sexual intimacy, such as touch and holding hands, lays a foundation for sexual desire. Try giving each other a 20-second hug; it’s reputed to boost oxytocin levels – especially in women – and oxytocin is known as the cuddle hormone.” In other words, cuddling once can lead to cuddling again, which can lead to regular cuddling. And can you imagine his delight if you were to unexpectedly pinch his rear when no one else was looking? Try it and see where it goes!

Stay glued for more tips lol.