Is She A Wife Material?

Hi aunty Muna, 

Please i need your advice. I got introduced to a girl by my father. Her older cousin knows my father. Since she lives outside of the country we've been using chat and Skype. It's been about four months now.

It's not that easy for me to take a vacation and visit her since I need to apply for a Visa, book a flight in advance, request for time off work, etc. So my uncle suggested that since he lives in the same country and same area as her that he can invite her to lunch or dinner and get to know her on my behalf. If she impresses him after their meeting, then he will be more comfortable with me planning a trip to visit her.

I mentioned the idea to her but funny enough she's against it. She wanted to know why and I told her the reason above. But she says she feels the idea is "weird" and "strange" as relationship between between two people should be based on the two people only.

Somehow i agree except for the fact that we're not in a typical relationship where both individuals are in the same city with the ability to get to know each other in depth every day. Because of distance, work schedule and time differences, Skype can only happen on the weekend and pre-arranged.

I feel its a simple request. If she has any feelings towards me then she shouldn't feel that awkward to have a meal with my uncle. She says she'll think it over.

I feel that while thinking it over she then declines, I wonder what other matters in our marriage she would not be able to accept.

Am I making her bend over backwards? What are your thoughts?

Tom.

Hi Tom, 

I would suggest you look for  a woman to marry closer to where you live. Dont forget that your uncle is not you. He may be a wonderful judge of women, but what if when you guys meet and non of you is impressed?  Please if you are looking for a wife material, better get someone you can monitor and look out for the wife traits you so desire. One love.