Is She Really Mrs Right?

Hmmmm you guys don't know what happened today. I've been tagged too GIRLY by one of my bestest BBM brothers. His name is Rico. This evening he accused me of writing only female friendly articles ooo. He said "Haba, I was going thru the blog now and I observed something sha. 85 to 90% of your articles are based on women this! women that. What about we guys? Aunty, this is Ojoro ooo...". Haa. I fear o. I thought I was writing articles that will make us better for our men.lol. Anyway not to worry, I promise to do my best to balance my writing from now on and I think it was great he drew my attentition to that. Thanks Rico, I owe you one sweetie.

Now guys how would you know if you are dating Mrs right? Or is love still blind in 2014? I...DONT...THINK...SO...

Guys, You’re Dating Mrs. Wrong . . .

​1. If you love her and she loves. . . HERSELF. Two words: manipulative and self-centered. Have you ever been in that relationship where you feel great, you are certain of your feelings for her, you would do anything for her, you love her–and she loves herself too? You tell her you love her and all she says is “Thank You”. In other words, the only person benefiting form the relationship is her. She just loves how much you love her, but doesn’t care all that much about you. You are so blinded by love that you allow her manipulate you, she may not know it either, but try setting up some boundaries and see if she will meet you. If she doesn’t and flips her wig, you know that you need to set good boundaries in the future and that she isn’t the right one for you.

2. If she has a lot of “guy friends”. If the girl you are dating has a lot of “guy friends” talks about them incessantly, goes for a drink with them every weekend, my brother, you have a problem. Truth is, you are the man in her life now and she needs to make sacrifices to make you the one that she connects with more, no matter how much fun she wants to have. Also, if she says, “oh, I just don’t really get along with girls,” and only has guy friends who call, text and ping her 247? Sorry!!! Try the next door. 

​3. If her epidermis is (always) showing. Men if she does not dress the part then chances are she cannot play it right now. Chances are she is looking for more attention than you can give her. Remember, you are looking for a future mother for your kids, not someone who looks like she is nursing a neighborhood. If the way she dresses when she goes out would make your grandmother look the other way, then you got it, you are certainly dating Mrs.Wrong.

​4. If you are giving 90% and she is giving10% then watch out. Agreed, men are supposed to sacrifice for women, part of chivalry being chivalrous, but if you are always going to her, she is hesitant to meet your friends and your parents, she has turned you into a “missing person” in your friend circle, it is time to reassess where the relationship is going. I have seen too many men get lost in dating a girl. All of a sudden your good friend Johnny is missing ALL the time because he is with “that girl” who doesn't love him.

​5. If she is too young for you. Are you 39 and she is 22? That means that you were 17 was when she was born. She is too young  for you and you need to date someone older, more matured and ready for marriage if you pop the question. So guys be challenged and date someone in your arena.

6. Now this is a serious matter. If you are a true Christian and she isn’t then she is certainly Mrssssss.... WRONG.... Do you find yourself compromising your beliefs, things that you have held dear to your heart for many years? For instance, does she push you to go farther physically than you are comfortable with during sex and other sensitive issues? Does she hold to the same faith as you? Christian men, do you feel yourself pulled farther from the Father? Being challenged in your faith by a faith-filled woman is good, and the Bible warns against dating someone who doesn’t share your faith. That is not a statement to keep you from having fun, that is a statement that will bode well for your life should you choose to abide by it. Word..

7. If she does not respect you. Does she respect you? Do you feel built up when around her? This is a BIG one guys! Men we are designed to thrive from respect, and often they feel the most loved when they are respected. Like I always say, only my husband can calm me down in my moment of madness lol. All he needs to do is to call my name and I am back to that very good girl lol. So does she make fun of you in public to ease tension? My brother please R-U-N! Does she talk you down when in private? Nwannem (brother) R-U-N! Does she say negative things about you behind your back, or do you suspect that she does? Biko R-U-N! You should pick a woman who, for lack of a better term, makes you look and feel good. Not by her physical appearance, but by the way she speaks to and addresses you. If she does not respect you, she is SURELY Mrs. Wrong.

8. Is she hot…to you? This might rustle some feathers. Are you attracted to her? Do you have to fight to keep your eyes off her? Can you vision yourself with her long-term, physically? Are you picking up what I am laying down? Does the thought of kissing her do much for you? It should! Does she take good care of her body? This is important because while physical attraction is not what a relationship is based on, for men it is very important. Men if you have to convince yourself that you are attracted to her, you aren’t. Be gentle, very gentle in the way you tell her if this is the case. Also keep in mind once you are married, you are ALWAYS attracted to her.

​When she is 23 and slim, you are into her when she is 23 and thin. When she is 33 has 3 kids and “bulky”, you are into her at 33 with 3 kids and “bulky”. Is she 83 and in a hospital bed? You are into her when she is 83 and in the hospital. She SHOULD ALWAYS BE THE MOST BEAUTIFUL WOMAN YOU HAVE EVER SEEN!​

Gentlemen, in closing, if you are in a relationship with a woman who fits into these categories and you realize that she isn’t the one for you, please man up. Don’t just stop calling, or break up over text. If you do I’ll come to where you live and make sure you never text-end a relationship again lol. Respect her as a person, woman, and daughter of God. Let her down easy, don’t be manipulated into staying with her, be kind, considerate, and chances are you wont remain “good friends” but That’s okay! You don’t need any more friends. Dating is not about making friends, but choosing the woman who will be your lifelong best friend!

​Just like my big sis Stella Dimoko would say, I have given my own 2 cents of advice lol? Men and women anything else to add? Do you agree, disagree? Much Love...